This is Water by David Foster Wallace

This is water by David Foster Wallace


It means being conscious and aware enough to choose what you pay attention to and to choose how you construct meaning from experience

Need to make a conscious decision about how to think what to pay attention  to
It's the automatic unconscious way and I experience the boring frustrating crowded parts of adult life I'm operating on the automatic unconscious believe that I am the center of the world and that my immediate needs and feelings are what should determine the world priorities

Everybody worships ( men money power) (yielding  wealth comfort personal freedom ) the only choice we get his what to worship

Insidious things about most types of worship is not that they are evil or sinful but that they're on unconscious  - they are  default settings

Important kind of freedom involves attention and awareness and discipline and effort being able to truly care about other people to the sacrifice for them over and over in myriad Petty little unsexy ways every day

Value a real education simple awareness and if someone is sensual rounds this is water and consciously each day
In the world 






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The Snake Stone by Jason Goodwin

the snake stone jason goodwin

First heard of this guy because in Npr they reviewed a cookbook released of Turkish recipes by the author as though written by the character in his 19th century historic mystery novels.

The Snake Stone is the second in a series of detective novels by Jason Goodwin, featuring the eunuch Yashim. It is set in Constantinople / Istanbul in 1838. The library didn't have the first in the series so I jumped in on#2 not an issue.
I do enjoy historical fiction.

Having been to Istanbul made the book more lively and tangible for me ; though  I felt I had missed out somewhat not eating more by street food vendors - a caution always taken when traveling with a family group of eight, particularly with the odd digestive system I've inherited.

NYT makes the comparison to another. favored author  "The obvious and flattering point of comparison is Arturo Pérez-Reverte’s Captain Alatriste novels, which dashingly incorporate 17th-century Spanish political machinations into the adventures of their dauntless hero. If Yashim’s era is a time of less swordplay, it is no less fraught with intrigue."

I quickly finished this novel, went back to the library , checked out another, out of sequence book entitled "An Evil Eye" and am devouring it.

A couple interesting side bars on 'new names' whispered to a child at birth, and 'how to shed your regrets and how to master your memories so you can hold yourself together as a man - living without bitterness and remorse.'   Not truly inspirational stuff but well crafted and engaging narrative.

Icon by Frederick Forsyth

Icon by Frederick Forsyth

A good spy novel read that I should've read before I went to Russia last year. Having been to Russia it made the book - easy to visualize and project yourself into the scene. Nothing fancy about the book nothing great no great literature just a compelling story. Read it when you need a quick read for either a break in your reading schedule or before you head over to Moscow!

The hidden life of trees by Peter Wohlleben

The hidden life of trees what they feel, how they communicate, discoveries from a secret world. A bit pretentious for a title but a very ambitious book. I've always been interested in trees I delight in hiking in them looking at pictures of them

 studying unique ones. This book has been a top seller in Germany and was only recently translated.  So when I saw the title  I thought hmm might be interesting. It is. 

Perhaps a bit more than I wanted to know more details that were less compelling presented. Though in general I found it a non-stressfull, conversational type of presentation. I deep read about half of it and skimmed about half of it. But if you like trees it's an easy choice - read it. If you don't know trees this will introduce you to the fact that they are very much ALIVE . And perhaps make it feel not so far-fetched when you see the trees interacting as they do in Lord of the Rings or Pocahontis. 


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Out Stealing Horses by Per Petterson

Out Stealing Horses by Per Petterson

An interesting coming of age story , two stories in fact, coming of age as a young man ( 15 yrs old in Norway 1948) and then coming of age again as an older man (Norway 2000)Both resolved by the insight of the protagonist 's experience "we do decide for ourselves when it will hurt." Loss is conveyed with all the intensity of a boy’s perception, but acquires new resonance in the brooding consciousness of the older man. 

Carrying Albert Home by Homer Hickman

Homer Hickam, the author, upon hearing tall tales about his mother’s alligator, Albert; eventually sits down and captures them in writing. Labeled a novel, based upon near truth; the unreliability of memories and the way stories become stretched and exaggerated over time blend to tell his family history. He tells of Elsie Hickam, his mother, who “loved Albert more than just about anything in the whole world”, but Elsie’s new husband, Homer sr, finally issues an ultimatum: “‘Me or that alligator.'” After thinking it over, Elsie reluctantly agrees to give up her beloved pet, returning him to his native Florida. The young couple’s road trip from West Virginia to Florida involves more adventures than most people have in a lifetime – meeting John Steinbeck, witnessing industrial rebellions, joining the coast guard, starring in a movie, and experiencing a hurricane – are condensed into one epic journey.” It explores the ups and downs of love and marriage, and celebrating uniqueness and the real effort it takes to fall in love and make it stick. 

As a book, it a fun read. As a insight into love and devotion it a good read. It reminds one of the effort it takes to really get to know your life’s partner even after you commit to each other. And of the multiple dimensions of a relationship be they emotional, physical, social or otherwise. Not a deep philosophical solution to the world’s problems but an enjoyable palette cleanser between more serious fare. Just right for a road trip.

The almost nearly perfect people by Michael Booth

The almost nearly perfect people by Michael Booth 

A must read for the vacationing American heading to Scandinavia a corner of the globe oft over-looked, and over-glamorized (or someone trying to understand the inner workings of Minnesotans going beyond listening to A Prairie Home Companion).

The author is a Brit who marries a Dane and ultimately lives in Denmark and tries to capture his insights in this short overview / travel guide / analysis, an essentially observational discussion, of the Scandinavian experience. Scandinavian deep-rooted instinct for consensus of conformity, the democratic systems, universal free education, redistributive tax systems ensure they look at each other in the eyes as equals. Americans want the freedom ‘to do’ the swede the freedom ‘to be’. It is easier to be eccentric in a diverse society- strong sense of self, your own values - Scandinavia offers comfort in conformism , sameness but in a good way - benign totalitarianism.

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I know the Christian orientation of all these countries has diminished in terms of active Christianity over time. It was particularly striking in Sweden how the state has replaced the church and the family, both find people go to the state for those historic value orientations and traditional supports. The author and Scandinavian society tend to express little remorse in this change. Finding it an appropriate evolution in becoming ‘modern’.

The book provides an interesting narrative of experience and research in delineating between Sweden Norway Finland Denmark and Iceland. Subtle differences (whether they be wealth well, heritage, population size, food, social interaction etc.) but differences nonetheless to make an interesting read.

[Editorial comment: that it's interesting when people compare America today & Scandinavian countries because theirs is such a small homogenous population (even with current immigration )swede being the biggest with 10 million Max and barely approach the population of United States trying to accomplish great things on a greater scale.]

Here is the review that captures the essence most succinctly - 

“Bill Bryson goes to Scandinavia.” ―Christian Science Monitor

So if you find yourself as we did having lived a lifetime among the American version of Scandinavia – Minnesota; and taking a two week ground tour starting in Copenhagen, then nearby Federicksborg, heading to Oslo , up to Josetedal , over to Bergen, back to Oslo and down to Malmo cross back to Copenhagen and out; you will find yourself continually reading out loud factoids and short clips to the driver in competition with books on tape; and saying: ‘ ya yu bet’cha ’ that sound just like Ole and Sven that Tom Anderson told me about.

The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt by Edmund Morris

The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt by Edmund Morris

I was looking for a biography somehow got pointed towards this. didn't quite realize I was jumping into eight hundred pages; nonetheless I quite enjoyed the book. I wasn't very current in my history of the late 1800s which was interesting I equally wasn't very current with my history of Theodore Roosevelt -a truly compelling individual. 

Roosevelt  was a man born to wealth, of status and position ; which he worked to optimize through doggedly trying to achieve and excellence. He overcame obstacles of bad health trying family times and premature death of his wife. He was comfortable to roam the halls of Harvard, hobnob with the wealthy in New York , ride the  range of the  Dakotas, know the cities of Europe,  a great nature conservationist who loved to hunt, and be a hero of the Spanish-American war in Cuba with the Roosevelt Roughriders. He was a prolific writer publishing dozens of books in his lifetime with a broad range of expertise and averaged reading a book a day throughout his life.

"He was a politician born to articulate the longings of the inarticulate; a scholar able to interpret current events in the light of ancient and modern history; a man of peculiar uprightness and abounding vitality and marvelous memory; who stuck to his policy with all the tenacity of a snapping turtle."

"Adams found Roosevelt repulsively fascinating ... His vitality was indecent, his finances ridiculous, and he was about as subtle culturally speaking as a Bullmoose . there's no denying his originality, his extraordinary ability to translate that into deed ...he was pure act."

“Spectacles glittering, teeth and temper flashing, high-pitched voice rasping and crackling, Roosevelt surges out of these pages with the force of a physical presence.” He is one of the most articulate most well read and written the most books of any of our presidents a truly extraordinary man.

"Selected by the Modern Library as one of the 100 best nonfiction books of all time " 

Reminds me of why I like a biography you can find great writing, a comprehensive look into history, insights into the making of people of strong character , and inspiration for yourself to improve.

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How Children Succeed by Paul Tough

"Why do some children succeed while others fail? The story we usually tell about childhood and success is the one about intelligence. Paul Tough argues that the qualities that matter most have more to do with character: skills like perseverance, curiosity, conscientiousness, optimism, and self-control.”

That quick overview says it well. Its an interesting read in context of today’s world where there is affront on family and certainly the value of character om many sides. Key contributors and indicators of success in college and after-college life are basically maternal attachment and character development.

I frequently reflected, during my reading, on the scout law and its list of: A Scout is trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean, and reverent;And if ever young man between 11-16 was involved in scouting, what a difference it would make. Couple it with the core of self-control and willpower. (perhaps showing the video of the marshmallow test to discuss with kids self-control and will power would be a good thought starter)

Teenagers have an issue with “incentive processing system” which makes you more sensation seeking more emotional and reactive more attentive the social information works in conflict with cognitive control system allows you to regulate urges. Metacognitive substitute for willpower by making yourself a rule you can sidestep the painful internal conflict between your desire for and willful determinations to resist them. Provide structure preparing preparing us for encounters with tempting stimuli redirecting attention elsewhere (eg. sing a hymn when a bad thought arises -create a default response to ft do the good thing)

Optimism was identified as a critical attribute. Pessimist react to negative events by explaining them as permanent personal and pervasive Optimist look at them for the specific limited and short term

High-quality mothering connect a child to the powerful buffer against the damage that adversity and fix the child stress response system (maternal attachment). Parents can overcome histories of trauma and poor attachment they can change their approach to their children. Poor attachment can be broken because there's opportunity for growth and improvement.

Whether or not intelligences is malleable mindset certainly is-switch kids from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset -character attributes are equally Malleable. He cites multiple testing where character ratings are better indicator of college success than cognitive skill test such as SAT.

Critical component of college success non-cognitive academic skills during study skills including study skills,work habits, time management, help seeking behavior , social/academic problem solving skills-taught by emphasizing resourcefulness ambition Professionalism  resilience integrity -with work in character development destinies are malleable past performance is not indication of future results

Kids need the ability to manage failure. In fact they need the opportunity to fail to develop the life-long skill and coping devices. Need for a secure relationship with a care giver teaching them to manage stress. As such Family functioning matters! 

Character matters -GRIT, CONSCIENTIOUSNESS, RESILIENCE, PERSEVERANCE, OPTIMISM; add: curiosity, self-control, self-confidence, gratitude

Unfortunately society debates over character attributes being to value oriented. As for me I’m on the side of character development. I embrace the LDS Youth Program and the ideals of scouting: “The mission of the Boy Scouts of America is to prepare young people to make ethical and moral choices over their lifetimes by instilling in them the values of the Scout Oath and Law”

There is a real necessity to help all youth, regardless of religious orientation, to get on the first wrung to the ladder of success; and it appears that family and character is a great place to begin. 

The Traveler's Gift - "7 decisions that determine personal success" by Andy Andrews

today I just happened to finish a book about dealing with lives challenges.  The Traveler's Gift by Andy Andrews , offers a modern day parable of one man's choices—and the attitudes that make the difference between failure and success. It's a quick and enjoyable read taking you through the protagonist 's interactions with several famous, and not so much , characters throughout history; and the life lesson they had to teach David Ponder. You can find it in the library - quickly read it -and come away with some added resolve and energy. I think you would like it.

A sneak peak into who you will meet and what they will say

The seven decisions that determine personal success :

THE BUCK Stops here    President Harry Truman

I WILL SEEK WISDOM: King solomon. 

I AM A PERSON OF ACTION:  Joshua Chamberlain

I HAVE A DECIDED HEART:  Christopher Columbus

TODAY I WILL CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY: Anne Frank.

I WILL GREET THIS DAY WITH A FORGIVING SPIRIT: Abraham Lincoln:.

I WILL PERSIST WITHOUT EXCEPTION:  Archangel Gabriel

Headlines are just that headlines. If you want the substance then read the book!