Becoming wise

Becoming wise: An inquiry into the mystery and art of living

by Krista Tippit

I enjoy Kristen Tibbetts podcast on being - listening to her interviews of people with various spiritual backgrounds and beliefs trying to come to a common ground . I read this book hoping it would be well written and bountiful in thought - it was both. 

'“I’m a person who listens for a living.  I listen for wisdom, and beauty, and for voices not shouting to be heard.  This book chronicles some of what I’ve learned in what has become a conversation across time and generations, across disciplines "

 
Review stated: "In Becoming Wise, Tippett distills the insights she has gleaned from this luminous conversation in its many dimensions into a coherent narrative journey, over time and from mind to mind. The book is a master class in living, curated by Tippet.
 The wisdom we seek emerges through the raw materials of the everyday. And the enduring question of what it means to be human has now become inextricable from the question of who we are to each other. It insists on the possibility of a common life for this century marked by resilience and redemption, with beauty"

Some favorite snippets:

Wisdom leavens intelligence and ennobles consciousness and advances evolution itself.

 Listening is about being present not just about being quiet.generous listening is powered by curiosity

What we practice we become- What's true of playing the piano and throwing a ball also holds for our capacity to move through  the world mindlessly and destructively or generously and graceful -(Related to Wilcox talk grace saves us and helps practice living in grace as the Savior lives changing our nature . )

I have yet to meet a wise person who doesn't know how to find some joy even in the midst of what is hard, and to smile and laugh easily including at oneself

There is such a thing as a bad question generous listening in fact yields better questions. Questions illicit answers in their likeness answers mirror the questions they rise or fall to meet. It is hard to meet a simplistic question with anything but a simplistic answer it's hard to transcend the combative question it is hard to resist a generous question

Words

Choose from the words 

that even now sleep on your tongue and to know that tangled 

among them terribly new is the sentence that could change your life 

What a wonderful way to think about the power language the mystery of it comes from in us

The question of listening is also a question of how do you listen to yourself

'He's looking with an eye that was deeply filled by love and compassion that Eye opens us up to see many things that might otherwise be missed '- seeing things through the filter of God's eyes not man's eyes

A Hug provides the boundary around an experience embraces one with love and says this is a limit to the pain that you can suffer

Muddled words

Awe - wonder of the ineffable of God

Vs awesome -totally radical dude

Beauty – that in the presence of which we feel more alive. Acts of kindness works of goodness – beauty incarnate, The spirit of living the beatitudes, proceeds through exuberantly inhabiting the given imperfect raw materials of the every day

Loving reality in all it's imperfection is the necessary prelude to discovering God present and alive

Vs Beaut - something sexually vivacious

People with Disabilities can bring this thing is precisely to the equilibrium of the heart beauty and purity of the world

The Buddhist word citta meaning the heart and mind are the same thing like into D&C 8:9 Lord telling you in your heart and in your mind

Excerpts from a poem by Elizabeth Alexander - what if the mightiest word is love?

Love Beyond marital, filial,  national 

love that casts a widening  pool of light 

love with no need to preempt grievance.

My heart cannot be educated by myself. It can only come out of a relationship with others. And if we accept being educated  by others, to let them explain to us what happens to them , and to let yourself be immersed in their world so!they can get into our world, then You begin to share something very deep.

We find our fulfillment  where we choose to find our fulfillment. if you're told you can only find it here you don't look it where it is , which is your life , you keep thinking it's coming. OK it'll will be here one day I'll get the big love. Well we have a big love.  it's already here.

(in capitalism what is engineered is longing, engineered longing and desire and us what can be in the future. It's always about the next product the next big thing) everything is all hooked into the seduction. What if we were actually content with our  life's?'The daily subtle simple gathering of kindnesses'

Muddled words continued

Wonder

Wondering is it beautiful way to begin to speak of a shared vocabulary of mystery we might embrace across our disciplines or contrasting certainties and our doubts. 

We need to look at examine the world with wonder we need to keep asking not just asking in our youth. 

Children connect with the questions the inquiry enormous curiosity about this universe and The hope that somehow those answers will come about. Spiritual life is a way of dwelling with perplexity searching for the purposes  as well as its perils its beauty as well as its ravages.

We are called to be the good Samaritan and lift our neighbor out of the ditch. but After you lift so many people out of the ditch you start to say maybe the whole road to Jericho needs to be transformed.

It's worth pausing every once in a while and taking in -isn't it -this dramatic change in our lifetime -when you travel you know you're not really doing so in order to move around you travel in order to be moved!

"The point of gathering stillness it's not to enrich the sanctuary or the mountaintop (or the temple ) but to bring that calm to the motion the commotion of the world."

'And the thing is being a wise parent or a spiritual parent doesn't take extra time. It's enfolded into the act of parenting.'

Hope like every virtue is a choice that becomes a practice to become spiritual muscle memory. It's a renewable resource for moving through life as it is not as we wish it to be .  - and cynicism is not more reasonable than hope .unlike almost every worthwhile thing in life cynicism is easy it judges things as they are but does not lift a finger to try to shift them. 

And hope is not an emotion. Hope is a cognitive, behavioral process that we learn when we experience adversity, when we have relationships that are trustworthy , when people have faith in our ability to get out of a jam. - The moments that make you are the moments of struggle. Hope is the function of struggle. resilience is a successor to mere progress, a companion to sustainability. To nurture a resilient human being is to build an expectation of adversity a capacity for inevitable vulnerability. Resilience is it once proactive pragmatic and humble. it doesn't overcome failure so much as transmutes it integrating it into the reality that evolves.

(We need to learn to fail gracefully - see book ' learning how to fall')

 Hope inspires the good to reveal itself

Humility has a lightness of step not a heaviness of heart. This lightness is the surest test for recognizing wisdom when you see it in the world or feel it's stirrings in yourself.

Plenty of mini sermons in this book. Plenty  to ponder on -  faith hope and love ultimately leading to wisdom

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Chicago by Brian Doyle

Chicago by Brian Doyle

A novel of exploration of development of community, exploration  of a city, development of a person . Made the better because it's Chicago, and I feel a kindred spirit to Chicago we lived nearby in Naperville  for five years. 

Enjoy Doyle's rich  writing style his use of words in his thoughts and insights.
Pg 154 - too long to, but a great description of Chicago and his perspective and language

"... while many stories slipped my mind over the years and slipped through my fingers too because I did not know enough to jot notes to serve as spurs to memory some of them remain adamant and resistant to erosion"

"stop for a while and watch , he's like that you know alert to things and patient enough to wait for them to arrive"

"it turns out that the biggest moments are a lot  like the smallest moment , just trundling and shuffling  along one after another, each one utterly normal and absolutely the most amazing moment ever"

It's a friendly, uplifting read on several levels - read it because you like Chicago , because you are moving into a new city and want to observe how someone else approached it, because you too are a listener , an observer, and a lover of a curated story.

It turned me to my reflections on moving away from Minnesota 
Leaving Minnesota

I have to admit in being a little disappointed in not being asked to speak when we moved to Chicago but had I been asked to speak this is what I would've said reflecting primarily on my religious community in Minnesota.

I take from Minnesota 
1 LEGACY of mighty men of Minnesota who dared to be great: my dad Paul Williams Wilson Lou Oelkers Everett Manwaring Alan Anderson Bill Nelson Francis McDaniels Jack Paynter Larry Ingalls

2 FRIENDSHIP 
Long term 50+ years 
Mid years raised our children with 
new just joined congregation 
served by and served with

3 TESTIMONY
from warren biorn to Roy Patton competed for the longest testimony
To Sandra Jerry Christina and Evan who were the most consistent
To the hundreds if not thousands I've heard in this chapel and carry with me

What I left is just as precious
Our family pew

My gratitude
The ward the people shaped me and my family
Served us through babies multiple heard surgeries trips to mayo  and unemployment
Bounteous times baptisms ordinances missions marriage

My family
My parents my brothers my in-laws nephews and nieces and a church family

My love 
with part of my heart always here with dear friends and fellow saints

My testimony of things I know
God lives 
Loves us and wants us  to be happy 
hears and answers prayers
Holy Ghost to reveal to us
His son sent to redeem us


I love those things and a threat to return someday 






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This is Water by David Foster Wallace

This is water by David Foster Wallace


It means being conscious and aware enough to choose what you pay attention to and to choose how you construct meaning from experience

Need to make a conscious decision about how to think what to pay attention  to
It's the automatic unconscious way and I experience the boring frustrating crowded parts of adult life I'm operating on the automatic unconscious believe that I am the center of the world and that my immediate needs and feelings are what should determine the world priorities

Everybody worships ( men money power) (yielding  wealth comfort personal freedom ) the only choice we get his what to worship

Insidious things about most types of worship is not that they are evil or sinful but that they're on unconscious  - they are  default settings

Important kind of freedom involves attention and awareness and discipline and effort being able to truly care about other people to the sacrifice for them over and over in myriad Petty little unsexy ways every day

Value a real education simple awareness and if someone is sensual rounds this is water and consciously each day
In the world 






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The Snake Stone by Jason Goodwin

the snake stone jason goodwin

First heard of this guy because in Npr they reviewed a cookbook released of Turkish recipes by the author as though written by the character in his 19th century historic mystery novels.

The Snake Stone is the second in a series of detective novels by Jason Goodwin, featuring the eunuch Yashim. It is set in Constantinople / Istanbul in 1838. The library didn't have the first in the series so I jumped in on#2 not an issue.
I do enjoy historical fiction.

Having been to Istanbul made the book more lively and tangible for me ; though  I felt I had missed out somewhat not eating more by street food vendors - a caution always taken when traveling with a family group of eight, particularly with the odd digestive system I've inherited.

NYT makes the comparison to another. favored author  "The obvious and flattering point of comparison is Arturo Pérez-Reverte’s Captain Alatriste novels, which dashingly incorporate 17th-century Spanish political machinations into the adventures of their dauntless hero. If Yashim’s era is a time of less swordplay, it is no less fraught with intrigue."

I quickly finished this novel, went back to the library , checked out another, out of sequence book entitled "An Evil Eye" and am devouring it.

A couple interesting side bars on 'new names' whispered to a child at birth, and 'how to shed your regrets and how to master your memories so you can hold yourself together as a man - living without bitterness and remorse.'   Not truly inspirational stuff but well crafted and engaging narrative.

Icon by Frederick Forsyth

Icon by Frederick Forsyth

A good spy novel read that I should've read before I went to Russia last year. Having been to Russia it made the book - easy to visualize and project yourself into the scene. Nothing fancy about the book nothing great no great literature just a compelling story. Read it when you need a quick read for either a break in your reading schedule or before you head over to Moscow!

The hidden life of trees by Peter Wohlleben

The hidden life of trees what they feel, how they communicate, discoveries from a secret world. A bit pretentious for a title but a very ambitious book. I've always been interested in trees I delight in hiking in them looking at pictures of them

 studying unique ones. This book has been a top seller in Germany and was only recently translated.  So when I saw the title  I thought hmm might be interesting. It is. 

Perhaps a bit more than I wanted to know more details that were less compelling presented. Though in general I found it a non-stressfull, conversational type of presentation. I deep read about half of it and skimmed about half of it. But if you like trees it's an easy choice - read it. If you don't know trees this will introduce you to the fact that they are very much ALIVE . And perhaps make it feel not so far-fetched when you see the trees interacting as they do in Lord of the Rings or Pocahontis. 


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Out Stealing Horses by Per Petterson

Out Stealing Horses by Per Petterson

An interesting coming of age story , two stories in fact, coming of age as a young man ( 15 yrs old in Norway 1948) and then coming of age again as an older man (Norway 2000)Both resolved by the insight of the protagonist 's experience "we do decide for ourselves when it will hurt." Loss is conveyed with all the intensity of a boy’s perception, but acquires new resonance in the brooding consciousness of the older man. 

Carrying Albert Home by Homer Hickman

Homer Hickam, the author, upon hearing tall tales about his mother’s alligator, Albert; eventually sits down and captures them in writing. Labeled a novel, based upon near truth; the unreliability of memories and the way stories become stretched and exaggerated over time blend to tell his family history. He tells of Elsie Hickam, his mother, who “loved Albert more than just about anything in the whole world”, but Elsie’s new husband, Homer sr, finally issues an ultimatum: “‘Me or that alligator.'” After thinking it over, Elsie reluctantly agrees to give up her beloved pet, returning him to his native Florida. The young couple’s road trip from West Virginia to Florida involves more adventures than most people have in a lifetime – meeting John Steinbeck, witnessing industrial rebellions, joining the coast guard, starring in a movie, and experiencing a hurricane – are condensed into one epic journey.” It explores the ups and downs of love and marriage, and celebrating uniqueness and the real effort it takes to fall in love and make it stick. 

As a book, it a fun read. As a insight into love and devotion it a good read. It reminds one of the effort it takes to really get to know your life’s partner even after you commit to each other. And of the multiple dimensions of a relationship be they emotional, physical, social or otherwise. Not a deep philosophical solution to the world’s problems but an enjoyable palette cleanser between more serious fare. Just right for a road trip.

The almost nearly perfect people by Michael Booth

The almost nearly perfect people by Michael Booth 

A must read for the vacationing American heading to Scandinavia a corner of the globe oft over-looked, and over-glamorized (or someone trying to understand the inner workings of Minnesotans going beyond listening to A Prairie Home Companion).

The author is a Brit who marries a Dane and ultimately lives in Denmark and tries to capture his insights in this short overview / travel guide / analysis, an essentially observational discussion, of the Scandinavian experience. Scandinavian deep-rooted instinct for consensus of conformity, the democratic systems, universal free education, redistributive tax systems ensure they look at each other in the eyes as equals. Americans want the freedom ‘to do’ the swede the freedom ‘to be’. It is easier to be eccentric in a diverse society- strong sense of self, your own values - Scandinavia offers comfort in conformism , sameness but in a good way - benign totalitarianism.

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I know the Christian orientation of all these countries has diminished in terms of active Christianity over time. It was particularly striking in Sweden how the state has replaced the church and the family, both find people go to the state for those historic value orientations and traditional supports. The author and Scandinavian society tend to express little remorse in this change. Finding it an appropriate evolution in becoming ‘modern’.

The book provides an interesting narrative of experience and research in delineating between Sweden Norway Finland Denmark and Iceland. Subtle differences (whether they be wealth well, heritage, population size, food, social interaction etc.) but differences nonetheless to make an interesting read.

[Editorial comment: that it's interesting when people compare America today & Scandinavian countries because theirs is such a small homogenous population (even with current immigration )swede being the biggest with 10 million Max and barely approach the population of United States trying to accomplish great things on a greater scale.]

Here is the review that captures the essence most succinctly - 

“Bill Bryson goes to Scandinavia.” ―Christian Science Monitor

So if you find yourself as we did having lived a lifetime among the American version of Scandinavia – Minnesota; and taking a two week ground tour starting in Copenhagen, then nearby Federicksborg, heading to Oslo , up to Josetedal , over to Bergen, back to Oslo and down to Malmo cross back to Copenhagen and out; you will find yourself continually reading out loud factoids and short clips to the driver in competition with books on tape; and saying: ‘ ya yu bet’cha ’ that sound just like Ole and Sven that Tom Anderson told me about.

The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt by Edmund Morris

The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt by Edmund Morris

I was looking for a biography somehow got pointed towards this. didn't quite realize I was jumping into eight hundred pages; nonetheless I quite enjoyed the book. I wasn't very current in my history of the late 1800s which was interesting I equally wasn't very current with my history of Theodore Roosevelt -a truly compelling individual. 

Roosevelt  was a man born to wealth, of status and position ; which he worked to optimize through doggedly trying to achieve and excellence. He overcame obstacles of bad health trying family times and premature death of his wife. He was comfortable to roam the halls of Harvard, hobnob with the wealthy in New York , ride the  range of the  Dakotas, know the cities of Europe,  a great nature conservationist who loved to hunt, and be a hero of the Spanish-American war in Cuba with the Roosevelt Roughriders. He was a prolific writer publishing dozens of books in his lifetime with a broad range of expertise and averaged reading a book a day throughout his life.

"He was a politician born to articulate the longings of the inarticulate; a scholar able to interpret current events in the light of ancient and modern history; a man of peculiar uprightness and abounding vitality and marvelous memory; who stuck to his policy with all the tenacity of a snapping turtle."

"Adams found Roosevelt repulsively fascinating ... His vitality was indecent, his finances ridiculous, and he was about as subtle culturally speaking as a Bullmoose . there's no denying his originality, his extraordinary ability to translate that into deed ...he was pure act."

“Spectacles glittering, teeth and temper flashing, high-pitched voice rasping and crackling, Roosevelt surges out of these pages with the force of a physical presence.” He is one of the most articulate most well read and written the most books of any of our presidents a truly extraordinary man.

"Selected by the Modern Library as one of the 100 best nonfiction books of all time " 

Reminds me of why I like a biography you can find great writing, a comprehensive look into history, insights into the making of people of strong character , and inspiration for yourself to improve.

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