Hunt Gather Parent By michaeleen doubler

 Hunt Gather Parent 

What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans

By Michaeleen Doucleff

Doucleff  with her three-year-old daughter in tow set out to learn and practice parenting strategies from families in three of the world’s most venerable communities: Maya families in Mexico, Inuit families above the Arctic Circle, and Hadzabe families in Tanzania

Helpfulness

 

The creation of the nuclear family remodeled how we parent,but also how we learn to parent  - the shrinking down of the nuclear family, - individualism reigns supreme,

Acomedido. -paying attention then acting

How to train:

1.Let them practice

• The task should be real and make a contribution
• The task should be doable
• Never force a task
• Grant unto child a membership card - a sense of belonging to the family 
• Awareness of interdependence and connections 

2. Model 

  Family membership day

20-20-20

Minutes - feet away - silence 

Reconsider the child’s role in the family

3 acknowledge -the foundation for the parent child relationship:

T-togetherness 

E-encouragement 

A-autonomy 

M-minimal interference

Intrinsic motivation makes a person dance in the living room at night when no one is watching

Praise can undermine motivation instead try fluid collaboration 

1 sense of connectedness

2 autonomy my making a decision for themselves

1. Competency

Expect children to misbehave

Stop arguing with small children

(Disagreeing is ok - being disagreeable is not)

Don’t over stimulate children 

 Parenting tools

• parent with calmness
• Parent with touch (toss, physicality)
• Parent with awe - take a child outside
• Ignore it

Everyday tools

-learn the look

• explain natural consequences of actions
• Employ questions
• Responsibility 
• Action not words
• Master ignoring 
• Discipline through practice: stories  drama 

Not demanding nor bossy

Autonomy

Share : practice. -  modeling. - acknowledge 

Invisible safety net

Limit how often you ‘direct’ and/or ‘command’

Stop speaking for your child

Minimal interference

Team parenting

   Team

   Encourage

   Autonomy 

   Minimize interference 

Sleep - don’t fight over it- let child self regulate

   Model acknowledge practice

The selected works of TS Spivet. By Reif Larsen

The selected works of TS Spivet 

Spivet embodies the uneasy balance of innocence and insight prevalent in depictions of children

And here obsession is more than an attempt to exert control over quotidian uncertainties; it becomes a whole system of ordering a life against tragedy. Finding both comfort and a modest sense of adventure in precision, Spivet maps everything

With this novel, Reif Larsen seems to be announcing himself as a compassionate observer of prodigy incubated in emotional isolation and, at the same time, as a potentially eviscerating contestant on “Jeopardy

The novel is full of these easy demystifications: that brilliance doesn’t nurture, that attraction is more than a compatibility of I.Q.’s, that life surprises us, that people aren’t always what they seem. It would not be necessary to consult the author bio to know that Larsen has an M.F.A. — the novel is creatively written, sometimes quite beautifully so. But it is plagued by that sense of writers’ workshop insularity: it doesn’t aim to mean much.

Marginalia - “The reader’s attentions are consistently shifted, refocused so that suddenly the experience of reading a novel becomes not a refuge from the distraction of Internet life but a more insistent facsimile of it.”

Is one of the most  important molecular biologists in the world, whose research has thus far saved thousands of lives, and as we come in contact with more diseases resistant to penicillin... however here he is just another Arab man with fifty crabs who is harassed and whose life work is being destroyed. 

Art of Losing by Elizabeth Bishop

 Reflection on losing to death a spouse of years 

One Art

Elizabeth Bishop, 1911 - 1979

The art of losing isn't hard to master; so many things seem filled with the intent to be lost that their loss is no disaster. Lose something every day. Accept the fluster of lost door keys, the hour badly spent. The art of losing isn't hard to master. Then practice losing farther, losing faster: places, and names, and where it was you meant to travel. None of these will bring disaster. I lost my mother's watch. And look! my last, or next-to-last, of three loved houses went. The art of losing isn't hard to master. I lost two cities, lovely ones. And, vaster, some realms I owned, two rivers, a continent. I miss them, but it wasn't a disaster. —Even losing you (the joking voice, a gesture I love) I shan't have lied. It's evident the art of losing's not too hard to master though it may look like (Write it!) like disaster.

Faith precedes the miracle By Spencer W Kimball

Faith precedes the miracle

Dividing of the Red Sea came from the indomitable faith of their leader Moses  and he never losing hope

Moses, elijah, Abraham could not see clearly the end from the beginning 

How do I demonstrate my faith. - develop , ask for HF to grant me indomitable faith in and through his son

No earthquake, no thunder, no lightning, but the still small voice of the Spirit of God. it saved my life. It was a spirit of revelation to me .Wilford Woodruff

Numerous examples to illustrate that the Lord is actively working with his faithful followers as much today as ever.

Visions from space ... an outline of angelic and celestial communications with earth whivh may not be explicated  by anything other than extraterrestrial

God lives and is willing to communicate to us if we reach out to him ; simply because one has not personally had an experience does not refute the fact that others have and testify of it

A great book by a great man to assist in your own development of faith.

More Stories of the old duck hunters By Gordon MacQuarrie

 More Stories of the old duck hunters 

By Gordon MacQuarrie, a collection of in the woods of Wisconsin ( you will recognize many a location - he loves the Brule, don’t we all); he wrote for a sporting magazine back in the 30’s & 40’s.  

Actually I’ve now read three of his books(call it my mini- trifecta). I read them when I have a hard time falling asleep and I just lay in bed and read them and dream about fishing,  I didn’t ever hunt and my fishing skills are zero , I’m not even a fisherman compared to these guys, but hey they are my dreams cut me some slack . his  books are really compilations of articles he wrote for sports magazines and journals and daily papers back in the day. he died in the late 50s I believe. I got them as e- books from my library. Just grab anyone of them even if you don’t want to read, they are fun to read.

Before the coffee gets cold by Toshikazu Kawaguchi’s

Before the coffee gets cold

Toshikazu Kawaguchi’s beautiful, moving story explores the age-old question: what would you change if you could travel back in time? The fact is only your attitude of perceptions are things you can change. Good not great yet enjoyable More importantly, who would you want to meet, maybe for one last time. Why and what outcome would you be looking for?

The calculating stars by Mary Robinette Kowal

 The calculating stars 

The Calculating Stars is a science fiction novel by American writer Mary Robinette Kowal. A meteor catastrophically hits earth wiping out in one swoop the east coast, most of the us government and speeds the domesday clock on the demise of

World of Wonders by Aimie Nezhukumatathil

World of Wonders   Aimie Nezhukumatathil

Written by a woman who blends her Philipino / Indian  heritage part memoir part nature book can be read in snippets or gulped in 

Close to a favorite for the year 

I’ve read digitally imagine better in hard copy but my library did not have

Shady Characters by Keith Houston

Shady characters the secret life of punctuation .

A book on the two thousand year history of language - so,so as a book 

Factfulness by Hans Rosling

 FACTFULNESS  Hans Rosling

I found this an interesting book I trying to understand the source and accuracies of data-base anything in todays’ world.  He sets up the premise with examples of how he majority of experts will always 86% of the time gets wrong when trying  to guess the statiscitslc  facts f life: 

• What age are most girls educated  
• Birth rate

Factfulness is recognizing when a story talks about a gap:

Beware of comparisons of averages

Beware of comparisons of extremes