The Color of Compromise by Jemsr Tisby

 The Color of Compromise 

Tisby revealed where the American church is compromised with the Bible teaches eg. human dignity and quality of life,safety and  in the American dream and surviving in America. Christianity‘s racial past exposes the nasty ways people of faith actively worked against racial justice as well as the deafening silence of racial moderates. There’s progress but there’s no solution yet and this when I was about to give up hope that it wasn’t going to offer solutions when he did. 

 I think one of the key points is urgency and things need to happen today and so he offers:

ARC 

-awareness :Watch documentaries, diversify your social media, access websites created by racial and ethnic minorities...

-relationship: starts with people you know ask them about their particular circumstances,  find new places and hang out, do you want an activity with people who don’t look and act just like you / me

-commitment- Trade something do something now : join -donate - create -act

-Reparations: For slavery ,for Jim Crowe, for redline property law educational opportunity - I like the idea of every black  receive free tuition in a Christian college or grad school

• Add the lamentation gospel songs into the hymnal
• Make Juneteenth a national holiday
• Publicly denounce racism

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As God told Joshua “be strong and in good courage “ as he faced the most difficult role of his life God ordered Joshua to have strength & courage and then just working faithfully execute is much the same way the church today must receive God’s command show strength and courage to come out.

Hunt Gather Parent By michaeleen doubler

 Hunt Gather Parent 

What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans

By Michaeleen Doucleff

Doucleff  with her three-year-old daughter in tow set out to learn and practice parenting strategies from families in three of the world’s most venerable communities: Maya families in Mexico, Inuit families above the Arctic Circle, and Hadzabe families in Tanzania

Helpfulness

 

The creation of the nuclear family remodeled how we parent,but also how we learn to parent  - the shrinking down of the nuclear family, - individualism reigns supreme,

Acomedido. -paying attention then acting

How to train:

1.Let them practice

• The task should be real and make a contribution
• The task should be doable
• Never force a task
• Grant unto child a membership card - a sense of belonging to the family 
• Awareness of interdependence and connections 

2. Model 

  Family membership day

20-20-20

Minutes - feet away - silence 

Reconsider the child’s role in the family

3 acknowledge -the foundation for the parent child relationship:

T-togetherness 

E-encouragement 

A-autonomy 

M-minimal interference

Intrinsic motivation makes a person dance in the living room at night when no one is watching

Praise can undermine motivation instead try fluid collaboration 

1 sense of connectedness

2 autonomy my making a decision for themselves

1. Competency

Expect children to misbehave

Stop arguing with small children

(Disagreeing is ok - being disagreeable is not)

Don’t over stimulate children 

 Parenting tools

• parent with calmness
• Parent with touch (toss, physicality)
• Parent with awe - take a child outside
• Ignore it

Everyday tools

-learn the look

• explain natural consequences of actions
• Employ questions
• Responsibility 
• Action not words
• Master ignoring 
• Discipline through practice: stories  drama 

Not demanding nor bossy

Autonomy

Share : practice. -  modeling. - acknowledge 

Invisible safety net

Limit how often you ‘direct’ and/or ‘command’

Stop speaking for your child

Minimal interference

Team parenting

   Team

   Encourage

   Autonomy 

   Minimize interference 

Sleep - don’t fight over it- let child self regulate

   Model acknowledge practice

The selected works of TS Spivet. By Reif Larsen

The selected works of TS Spivet 

Spivet embodies the uneasy balance of innocence and insight prevalent in depictions of children

And here obsession is more than an attempt to exert control over quotidian uncertainties; it becomes a whole system of ordering a life against tragedy. Finding both comfort and a modest sense of adventure in precision, Spivet maps everything

With this novel, Reif Larsen seems to be announcing himself as a compassionate observer of prodigy incubated in emotional isolation and, at the same time, as a potentially eviscerating contestant on “Jeopardy

The novel is full of these easy demystifications: that brilliance doesn’t nurture, that attraction is more than a compatibility of I.Q.’s, that life surprises us, that people aren’t always what they seem. It would not be necessary to consult the author bio to know that Larsen has an M.F.A. — the novel is creatively written, sometimes quite beautifully so. But it is plagued by that sense of writers’ workshop insularity: it doesn’t aim to mean much.

Marginalia - “The reader’s attentions are consistently shifted, refocused so that suddenly the experience of reading a novel becomes not a refuge from the distraction of Internet life but a more insistent facsimile of it.”

Is one of the most  important molecular biologists in the world, whose research has thus far saved thousands of lives, and as we come in contact with more diseases resistant to penicillin... however here he is just another Arab man with fifty crabs who is harassed and whose life work is being destroyed. 

Art of Losing by Elizabeth Bishop

 Reflection on losing to death a spouse of years 

One Art

Elizabeth Bishop, 1911 - 1979

The art of losing isn't hard to master; so many things seem filled with the intent to be lost that their loss is no disaster. Lose something every day. Accept the fluster of lost door keys, the hour badly spent. The art of losing isn't hard to master. Then practice losing farther, losing faster: places, and names, and where it was you meant to travel. None of these will bring disaster. I lost my mother's watch. And look! my last, or next-to-last, of three loved houses went. The art of losing isn't hard to master. I lost two cities, lovely ones. And, vaster, some realms I owned, two rivers, a continent. I miss them, but it wasn't a disaster. —Even losing you (the joking voice, a gesture I love) I shan't have lied. It's evident the art of losing's not too hard to master though it may look like (Write it!) like disaster.

Faith precedes the miracle By Spencer W Kimball

Faith precedes the miracle

Dividing of the Red Sea came from the indomitable faith of their leader Moses  and he never losing hope

Moses, elijah, Abraham could not see clearly the end from the beginning 

How do I demonstrate my faith. - develop , ask for HF to grant me indomitable faith in and through his son

No earthquake, no thunder, no lightning, but the still small voice of the Spirit of God. it saved my life. It was a spirit of revelation to me .Wilford Woodruff

Numerous examples to illustrate that the Lord is actively working with his faithful followers as much today as ever.

Visions from space ... an outline of angelic and celestial communications with earth whivh may not be explicated  by anything other than extraterrestrial

God lives and is willing to communicate to us if we reach out to him ; simply because one has not personally had an experience does not refute the fact that others have and testify of it

A great book by a great man to assist in your own development of faith.